tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257399284971492459.post2767369037388906854..comments2022-04-09T14:42:51.404-04:00Comments on Somewhere in Transition: so little time to write...Julia Lee Barclay-Mortonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13148106233642560088noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257399284971492459.post-34362997626241610292011-10-23T16:19:07.109-04:002011-10-23T16:19:07.109-04:00Thanks Tom, all lovely insights and words. It'...Thanks Tom, all lovely insights and words. It's true about comfortable and not. <br /><br />I think the age thing for me is bittersweet now because I can't have children now and - as you know - did try. Having a hard time not feeling like a failure over that.<br /><br />On the bright side, took a lovely walk with Julie around the hood here in Inwood - old growth forest, wetlands and two rivers...a gorgeous day and astonished, still, this is Manhattan.<br /><br />But also as getting closer to what was supposed to be the day I would have given birth in 2007 if not for miscarriage, very sad too, not to mention separation, etc...<br /><br />Sometimes it's easier to accept things and sometimes harder even if it is necessary no matter what...<br /><br />But your words are soothing and I am grateful for them.Julia Lee Barclay-Mortonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13148106233642560088noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3257399284971492459.post-89003602376471046352011-10-23T12:41:30.805-04:002011-10-23T12:41:30.805-04:00After living in Colombia for three years in the 19...After living in Colombia for three years in the 1950s I always felt different, and I was. And I am so glad I kept taking occasionaljobs overseas after that because each time I felt I was gaining real understanding about myself and my American culture.<br />But you know this more than most because so much of your work is to help us (and you) get new perspectives on our assumed truths. I really believe that no person who asks "why" is ever comfortable, nor should we be. This is not a comfortable world.<br />Having said this, I now find in my 80s a deep feeling of being "home". The expat is still examining, questioning reality...but he is home because he has found his acceptance of himself. Don't ever worry about getting old. The beauty of age is that the body tells you clearly is is really OK to do one thing at a time, to seek peace for yourself, and be a lover.<br />Ganesh says hi,<br />TomAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com